Over the course of the past year AIC has provided invaluable information and support to our family as we sought to correct the gender marker on our son’s birth certificate. We adopted our son when he was three, knowing about his intersex condition (DSD). His caregivers had decided that he was a girl, based on his appearance at birth, and he had been raised as a girl for the first three years of his life.
Based on his intersex condition, and much of his behavior, play, and the friends he chose, we had for a long while wondered if he was really a very tomboy-ish girl, or whether he would one day tell us he is a boy. Over the course of the year between 5 and 6 years old, a time when children developmentally understand “gender” more fully, our child became clearer and clearer that he is a boy. When kindergarten started in the fall of 2010, he told the teacher on his first day at school to call him “he”, and he has never turned back.
Our son is now 8 years old, and it has gone well with school, community and friends. It is not possible to express how happy and right he feels now that we all know he is a boy, and how grateful we are as parents for the depth of information and support Anne and her staff have provided during our legal process to correct his birth certificate.
The documents we now have in hand, thanks in large part to AIC’s guidance, will allow us to correct his birth certificate so we can enroll him in any new schools without having to reveal his intersex condition or his early history. This also enables us to correct records at doctors’ offices so no one will mistakenly call him “she.” We are planning to travel internationally as well and it is important to our security as a two-mom, multi-racial adoptive family to have his correct gender on his passport.
This experience confirmed for me how necessary AIC is: not just for advocating for the rights of people with intersex conditions on a large scale in medical and legal worlds, but for the wellbeing of children like my son now. Please join me in contributing to AIC to make sure that these resources are available to other families.